When we are caught up in our busy lives, it is easy to forget what really matters. Out time seems to be eaten up by those never-ending ‘To Do’ lists: targets to achieve, chores to be done, projects to complete and there’s always more to add to the list, no matter how much we get done! It is depleting, exhausting and we end up malfunctioning in one way or another, because we are not machines, designed to do things, we are human beings, designed to be human!
And what does that mean, to be a human being? We are a living system within a larger system and our purpose is to live in relationship with ourselves and with others. Originally when we worked together to achieve common goals, it was to feed, clothe and house ourselves. We realised that it was easier to achieve these things by co-operating and supporting each other, using our different strengths to play our part, and encouraging each other, so that we would all want to be a part of it.
Our ‘organisations’ are really just groups of people forming a bigger living system, so that they can achieve what they want to achieve more easily. So why have we forgotten about how to use these systems well, and got caught up in just getting things done?
It’s time we remembered that it is through our relationship with others that we achieve more, it is by taking better care of ourselves that we really utilise our strengths. It isn’t hard to do, in fact it comes naturally!
So for the next month;
- Give yourself a break before you are completely exhausted, and just take some breathing space to be.
- Address the human being you are dealing with before you just ask them to do something.
- Offer help to others, and
- Ask for help from others
- Encourage others to take a breathing space with you
None of this needs to take up much of your time, in fact it will be better use of time than the attempts we make to keep going or look as if we’re keeping going, when we’ve really had enough. Instead of depleting your energy, it will help to re-energise you. When it comes down to it, none of us will want our epitaphs to say: ‘She finished the to-do list!’